WHAT
IS COUNSELLING ALL ABOUT?
What
kind of things can I discuss with a counsellor?
Anything.
Clients come along to discuss and work on a diversity
of issues. For example, work, relationships, sexuality,
bereavement, parenting and fertility are some of the issues.
Many clients wish to explore their feelings regarding
issues of personal inadequacy, anger, depression, anxiety
and unhappiness. Others realise that their lives are being
affected negatively by their excessive use of drugs, alcohol,
food or sex and are seeking help to change this behaviour.
Some clients have undergone traumatic experiences - either
in the past or quite recently and they wish to discuss
these experiences in a safe and supportive environment.
Counsellors see many people who have been sexually abused,
bullied or who have been involved in traumatic situations
and they are able to help clients deal with the long-term
consequences of these events. A great many people come
into counselling to help them deal with relationship difficulties.
The most common problems are to do with lack of effective
communication, the discovery of infidelity and/or sexual
problems. They may come with their partner or by themselves.
How
will I be counselled?
For
an individual, counselling sessions are usually 1 hour
in length. For couples, sessions may be longer. Usually
the sessions are held at weekly intervals but if a client
is in crisis or is feeling suicidal the sessions may be
more frequent. All sessions are confidential and they
will continue until the client has achieved the goals
that they wish to attain, until they have dealt with the
issues that are causing them distress or they have learnt
more effective ways in which to deal with their feelings.
If
my problem concerns a relationship, must my partner also
be willing to seek help?
No.
Counsellors will see whoever comes; even when people feel
the whole difficulty lies with the other person it is
often useful to talk things over confidentially with a
trained counsellor. A different perspective and some new
ideas on a different way of problem solving can prove
a turning point towards a more satisfying relationship.
Will
I ever be advised by counsellors to separate or divorce?
Counsellors
do not take it upon themselves to decide whether a client
should separate from their partner or not. Their job is
to help the client/clients explore all the alternatives
so that the client/clients can decide for themselves the
best course of action. Sometimes clients come for counselling
to help repair their relationship but find out during
the counselling sessions that their expectations are very
different and that the relationship is irrevocably damaged
and cannot be repaired. In these cases, the counsellor
would then focus on helping the couple to adapt themselves
to the new situation with a minimum of bitterness, hostility
and guilt. This can help their overall adjustment as well
as other family members, i.e. children or parents. Counselling
can provide positive support during what is almost always
an extremely painful period in a couple's life.
Who
would consult ReSource?
Clients
come from a wide variety of ethnic backgrounds and from
every section of the community. Diversity of Race, Sexual
Orientation, Religious background and Economic Status
is welcomed at ReSource. As ReSource has a sliding fee
scale based on each client's family income the organisation
can provide affordable counselling to anyone who needs
it. Clients range in age from teenagers to the elderly
- they may be single, married, in live-in relationships,
married or divorced, straight or gay. Everyone is welcome
at ReSource.
Who
would counsel me?
Our
counsellors are carefully selected mature men and women
from both Asian and Caucasian backgrounds. Whilst they
come from a diversity of backgrounds all are very well
qualified and have undergone extensive training. They
are supervised by ReSource, required to undertake further
training and are also encouraged to participate in ongoing
professional development.
How
successful can counselling be?
Success
needs defining. Counselling is a collaborative process
undertaken by both the client and the counsellor. Several
unhurried, objective but sympathetic sessions can help
a client clarify issues and give some insight. At the
other end of the spectrum, long-term counselling can gradually
but radically help a person to cope. Clients can be helped
to improve their ability to deal with life, work, personal
or inter-personal issues for the future.
How
can I make an appointment?
Appointments
are made by telephoning the office on 2523 8979 between
9:15 a.m. and 5:00 p.m. Monday to Friday. Voicemail messages
may be left after office hours or if no one is available.
Clients can be seen during office hours and also at lunch
times & after work. All enquiries and counselling
sessions are private and confidential.
Where
would I be counselled?
23/F,
Li Dong Building,
9 Li Yuen Street East,
Central, Hong Kong
Tel.
(852) 2523 8979 Fax (852) 2845 7352
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