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WHAT
IS COUNSELLING ALL ABOUT?
What kind of things can I discuss with a
counsellor?
Anything.
Clients come along to discuss and work on a diversity of issues.
For example, work, relationships, sexuality, bereavement, parenting
and fertility are some of the issues. Many clients wish to explore
their feelings regarding issues of personal inadequacy, anger,
depression, anxiety and unhappiness. Others realise that their
lives are being affected negatively by their excessive use of
drugs, alcohol, food or sex and are seeking help to change this
behaviour. Some clients have undergone traumatic experiences -
either in the past or quite recently and they wish to discuss
these experiences in a safe and supportive environment. Counsellors
see many people who have been sexually abused, bullied or who
have been involved in traumatic situations and they are able to
help clients deal with the long-term consequences of these events.
A great many people come into counselling to help them deal with
relationship difficulties. The most common problems are to do
with lack of effective communication, the discovery of infidelity
and/or sexual problems. They may come with their partner or by
themselves.
How
will I be counselled?
For
an individual, counselling sessions are usually 1 hour in length.
For couples, sessions may be longer. Usually the sessions are
held at weekly intervals but if a client is in crisis or is feeling
suicidal the sessions may be more frequent. All sessions are confidential
and they will continue until the client has achieved the goals
that they wish to attain, until they have dealt with the issues
that are causing them distress or they have learnt more effective
ways in which to deal with their feelings.
If
my problem concerns a relationship, must my partner also be willing
to seek help?
No.
Counsellors will see whoever comes; even when people feel the
whole difficulty lies with the other person it is often useful
to talk things over confidentially with a trained counsellor.
A different perspective and some new ideas on a different way
of problem solving can prove a turning point towards a more satisfying
relationship.
Will
I ever be advised by counsellors to separate or divorce?
Counsellors
do not take it upon themselves to decide whether a client should
separate from their partner or not. Their job is to help the client/clients
explore all the alternatives so that the client/clients can decide
for themselves the best course of action. Sometimes clients come
for counselling to help repair their relationship but find out
during the counselling sessions that their expectations are very
different and that the relationship is irrevocably damaged and
cannot be repaired. In these cases, the counsellor would then
focus on helping the couple to adapt themselves to the new situation
with a minimum of bitterness, hostility and guilt. This can help
their overall adjustment as well as other family members, i.e.
children or parents. Counselling can provide positive support
during what is almost always an extremely painful period in a
couple's life.
Who
would consult ReSource?
Clients
come from a wide variety of ethnic backgrounds and from every
section of the community. Diversity of Race, Sexual Orientation,
Religious background and Economic Status is welcomed at ReSource.
As ReSource has a sliding fee scale based on each client's family
income the organisation can provide affordable counselling to
anyone who needs it. Clients range in age from teenagers to the
elderly - they may be single, married, in live-in relationships,
married or divorced, straight or gay. Everyone is welcome at ReSource.
Who
would counsel me?
Our
counsellors are carefully selected mature men and women from both
Asian and Caucasian backgrounds. Whilst they come from a diversity
of backgrounds all are very well qualified and have undergone
extensive training. They are supervised by ReSource, required
to undertake further training and are also encouraged to participate
in ongoing professional development.
How
successful can counselling be?
Success
needs defining. Counselling is a collaborative process undertaken
by both the client and the counsellor. Several unhurried, objective
but sympathetic sessions can help a client clarify issues and
give some insight. At the other end of the spectrum, long-term
counselling can gradually but radically help a person to cope.
Clients can be helped to improve their ability to deal with life,
work, personal or inter-personal issues for the future.
How
can I make an appointment?
Appointments
are made by telephoning the office on 2523 8979 between 9:15 a.m.
and 5:00 p.m. Monday to Friday. Voicemail messages may be left
after office hours or if no one is available. Clients can be seen
during office hours and also at lunch times & after work.
All enquiries and counselling sessions are private and confidential.
Where
would I be counselled?
23/F,
Li Dong Building,
9 Li Yuen Street East,
Central, Hong Kong
Tel. (852) 2523 8979 Fax (852) 2845 7352
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